What to write about? My husband just suggested I write about my love for him... and it was not a joke... or it was not meant to be one, anyway. As this is a challenging topic, I am up to the task. Even at 11:00 at night, on the laptop, in bed.
Our story started many years ago, in a hospital, far, far away. For real, we did meet while working in a hospital, but it is not that far away from where we live now. We were both young (20 years old when we met). We both decided not to finish college the "traditional" route (what I consider traditional is going away for four years to a school and finishing within the four year window). We were both living at home with our parents, working and taking some classes at the local community college. The story goes on and on, but the major point is that we had a lot in common. We were going through similar circumstances. We were (are) even the same age (OK, two months difference). And we have really grown up, a lot, together.
Growing up is hard work! Falling in love, getting married, and starting a family is hard stuff. I think it is interesting how it seems so long ago, but just yesterday, at the same time. I can remember our first meeting, and first date with great clarity. So much has happened since then, but the details remain forever clear. The memories of our first years together are bittersweet. We had so many struggles learning how to live and communicate with each other, but so many fun times, and passionate moments. In truth, the struggles and passions have only changed some, but they are still there-- we are still growing up, I suppose.
So many events have occurred during our lives together. While we were busy growing our relationship and our family, we have experienced some crazy things. We've witnessed tragedy, and have been separated by war. We've seen and experienced birth and death. We've finished and continued school. Four different Presidents have been in office since the start of our relationship. My husband and I have experienced so much history together--not just the kind we will read about in books, but the kind that changes us! While life hasn't been smooth and easy, it has definitely been a whirlwind-ride of a time.
I think most marriages have their ups and downs, and ours is no exception. The love is a constant emotion mixed in with passion, anger, sweetness, exhaustion, laughter and tears. As we continue to grow and nurture each other, and our children, we experience new challenges just as we figure out how to get through the current crises. Life is constantly changing us, but we continue to look to each other for advice and encouragement. Our love has weathered many seasons, it is both loyal and sweet. My husband has said it best when he comments that we balance each other. I think that is the truth of our love, our relationship. We may have a lot in common externally, but emotionally we are very different. He tends to be level-headed and objective; I am emotional( and more emotional). He has more of the temper, I am more patient (most of the time, anyway).
God has lead us together, and we are both committed to our relationship. I pray that we both continue to grow closer to God. I pray that the love we have continues much the way it has started: constant. It (our love) has developed and grown--just as we have developed and grown, and continue to develop and grow.
Growing up. Together.
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